Why we struggle to live our potential
..is because we are not fully incarnated.
Because we don’t have a healthy relationship with our physical, emotional and mental body, we are not fully incarnated (settled in/grounded). Because we are not rooted in Love, and we live (or survive) in traumatized bodies, we simply try to protect ourselves from feeling anymore pain. Almost all of our actions and behaviors are coming from a place of fear and anger — from an unhealed inner child.
Our incarnation process
Our incarnation process happens over the first twenty-one years in three different seven year stages:
for the first seven years we’re incarnating into the physical body;
from seven to fourteen we are incarnating into our astral or emotional body;
the third stage, the last seven years until we are twenty-one, we’re incarnating into our mental body
First seven year cycle from 0-7 years
Our first seven years, including our birth, are most traumatizing* (*trauma: any experience that we are unable to digest / assimilate into our psyche) because we come from a place of pure safety and wholeness (our mother’s womb) where love is all there is and suddenly we get separated from that feeling of pure safety and we have to grow up in an environment that, let’s be real here, can never match the experience of safety and love within your mother’s womb. It doesn’t take long before we loose our anchor, our love within, that gets replaced by how much, and for what, we are getting loved from others and our environment. Because Love is not ruling our Human Experience, that in itself is what is causing to live in a human body to be traumatizing and why we spend our first 7 years building up tension in our body in stead of learning how to gracefully enter our body.
Second seven year cycle from 7-14 years
When it’s time to start building our relationship with our astral or emotional body, we are extremely sensitive to its charges. Because of the tension that is basically ruling our bodies and therefor Human Experience, emotions can not flow gracefully through us. Our nervous systems are already full which creates the intolerance to sit with discomfort, causing us to (over)react to emotions.
Third seven year cycle from 14-21 years
In our teenage years, our mind starts to take over the show, but in stead of discovering its gifts, it is getting caught up into the drama of the emotional body. Because of this, the way we learn to use our mental gifts, our mental intelligence, is to rationalize our feelings and emotions, and/or — the biggest one — to avoid pain. We use our mind to not having to feel, but because it gets so entangled, we can’t think clearly either. Our mind becomes our biggest protection/defense mechanism to escape from the pain that we are really feeling.
What it comes down to is that because we are not correctly and not fully incarnated in our physical, emotional and mental bodies, almost all of our actions and behaviors are coming from a place of fear and anger. Because we are not rooted in Love, and live (or survive) in traumatized bodies, we simply try to protect ourselves from feeling any more pain. This is obviously far from our potential, and leaves a negative mark on our relationships.
Our de-conditioning, or healing process is an incarnation, or I like to call it re-incarnation process, in where we are moving back to our feeling of Love within, to that safe place within ourselves, where emotions can flow through us and where we use our mind-body connection in healthy (and intelligent) ways. So that we can fall in love with being human (finally/again).